Pressure. When you’re young, it seems to be everywhere and to come from everybody. Parents put pressure on teens to be the best; friends put pressure on their peers to do things just to fit in with the crowd, and pressure can even come from one’s self. But what, if anything, can be done about it?
Naturally, most parents want their kids to be better than they were when they were younger. No parent wants to see their kids throw their education away or miss out on any opportunities that life has to offer them.
Sometimes it can be a little annoying or even stressful to always have your parents put constant pressure on you about the things that you need to do with your life. “Be better than me… make better grades… get a career.” The truth is, as much as any teen feels that they have life figured out, our parents’ counsel, along with a little pressure, is always needed to help keep us on the right track.
Our parents care about us and this is why they will put pressure on their teens and lecture them. If you do feel your parents might be putting a little too much pressure on you, it is a good idea to have a calm and understanding talk with them. Remember to be respectful. The more respectful you are when speaking to your parents, the more likely they will be to really try to understand where you are coming from.
Another likely source of pressure is one’s circle of friends. No one likes to feel left out, and when you’re young you are willing to try new things that can even be harmful, such as drugs and alcohol, just to feel like you are accepted. However, these things can lead to dark roads and distract you from things that truly matter such as school and family.
Everyone needs friends, but no one needs a friend who is going to put pressure on them to do things they are uncomfortable doing. Peer pressure is bothersome and unfortunately sometimes unavoidable, but there are things you can do to avoid being in an unwanted situation. Befriend those who are genuine and have the same morals and values as you. These will be people who will be true friends and who will be there for you to rely on.
They will build you up instead of tear you down. True friends can be hard to find but it is always good to remember that quality is indeed better than quantity. Surrounding yourself with good friends will greatly diminish bad peer pressure and help make teen life less stressful.
As much as pressure can come from those around us it can also come from ourselves. It is terribly easy to make yourself feel that you are not good enough as the next person in line. Too often, teens look at others’ accomplishments and see that their own are not as great. This leads to one putting unneeded pressure on one’s self. Having expectations for ourselves is great and shows we want to move forward in life, but we have to be realistic and not compare ourselves to others.
Albert Einstein said, “Everybody is a genius, but if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing it is stupid.” We are all unique and different from each other. Therefore, it is important to be the best we ourselves can be. Do your best and push yourself to be better but do not put excess pressure on yourself. Be proud of and cherish and admire your own strengths and accomplishments.
Growing up is not easy and constant pressure from others and ourselves can only make it more difficult. Sometimes there are even times you want to pull your hair out. Every teen will experience excess pressure from time to time but it is important to relax and move forward because there are definitely ways to minimize the pressures in your life!